Is Divorce Ever Equitable?

Let me begin by saying that I am not a divorce lawyer and any experience I have in this arena is strictly personal experience; both my own and experience via observation of my friends, colleagues and acquaintances. That being said, this blog entry may be a bit emotional and yes a bit angry.]

A friend of mine is currently going through a divorce. After 24 years of marriage, her husband found the company of a 25 year old and her small child more appealing than the life he had built with his wife and their two sons. Ok, ok it's the same old song and dance. Most of us have heard this tale more than we care to admit. After a little over a year and a half of pain, humiliation, anger and a host of other emotions, the time has come for the end. Now is the time that their 24 years of marriage is reduced to dollar signs and possessions.

In the state of New Jersey, divorce is all about equitable distribution. The definition of equitable is "characterized by equity or fairness; just and right; fair; reasonable." At her mediation the other day, this 51 year old baby boomer, who has worked diligently in education for the last 27 years, while raising her two sons and contributing more than her "fair share" during the course of her marriage was informed that she would most likely be surrendering between 45 and 50% of her pension to the man whose actions deleted a history just as easily as pushing the delete button on the computer. His employement over the years has not yielded much in the way of pension. Oh yeah, and let's not forget that she will need to sell her house of 20 years too to pay him his share. Call me crazy, but this just doesn't seem "equitable!" Not only has her life past and present been shattered, her future is shattered as well.

It is hard to comfort my friend on her down days. She is hurt, pissed and often afraid. To tell you the truth, I am pissed for her. Is the moral of the story screw whomever you want, literally and figuratively, but it will be OK? How can it be that in 2009 it is still the woman who suffers more financially as a result of divorce? How nice for him to know that his future is secure so that he can begin his new life in peace. That seems "equitable" doesn't it?

World Menopause Day Means $5 Off Wicking Sleepwear!

HAPPY WORLD MENOPAUSE DAY LADIES!!! World Menopause Day is not a new event. It was started way back in 1984, though it is still relatively unheard of. Started by the International Menopause Society and the World Health Organization, World Menopause Day's original purpose was to bring increased awareness to menopause.

Menopause changes a woman’s quality of life and more importantly puts her at increased risk for osteoporosis, breast cancer, heart disease, and stroke. Let's not forget hot flashes, night sweats, weight gain, depression, sleep problems, itchiness and a host of other symptoms that were once thought to be only "in the head" of the transitional woman. It is important to understand the risk factors associated with these conditions and how these conditions can be treated.

This once undiscussed topic has now come into focus and is open for discussion for more and more women with each other, and their physicians as well. Just Google "menopause" and you will find an abundance of websites and information.

In honor of World Menopause Day, Lunar Radiance is offering $5.00 off all wicking sleepwear purchases of $20.00 or more. We are doing our part to help you say "Nightie, night" to night sweats!!

Happy Columbus Day - It's Our 14.92% Sale!

You can't open a newspaper or look at your local circulars without finding a ton of Columbus Day weekend specials. Lunar Radiance wants to get in on the fun too!

All day today (Sunday) and tomorrow, all purchases of wicking pajamas and wicking nightgowns will receive a discount of 14.92% on purchases of $39.99 or more. All you need to do is enter promo code COLUMBUS09 at checkout. It's that easy. So pick something new, grab another one of your favorites and be prepared to sleep in cool, dry comfort! Say "Nightie night, night sweats." CLICK HERE now! Spread the word to you baby boomer and menopausal friends!
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My Zazzle store NightSweatsDiva, is also having a 14.92% sale. Grab your Halloween goodies at a fabulous price. Adorable tee shirts, goodie bags, mugs, stickers, postage, greeting cards and more!

Personalized Halloween Tote Bag by NightSweatsDiva

Halloween Card...customize w/your message by NightSweatsDiva

All Purchases 14.92% Off Thru Monday!

Potpourri

I am always reading about baby boomers, menopause, night sweats and generally all information that pertains to those of us who are living in this transitional period. I came across a plethora of articles, but these three stood out because they resonated with me since I had actually engaged in conversations about these topics this week.

First up deals with depression and menopause. Did you know that the risk for major depression more than doubles while women are going through menopause and afterward? Have you been wondering if it's "just you?" Click here to read more.

Boomers around the country are talking retirement around the water cooler. The baby boomers have three important questions before them: Have they had enough? Do they have enough? Will they have enough to do? What about you? Click here to read more.

I'd like to say I saved the best for last.....NOT! However, I couldn't pass it by. Women who add more fat to their bodies as they approach menopause will have a harder time with hot flashes and night sweats. (thank heavens for wicking sleepwear!) Research is showing that these weight gains, which are often common during menopause, may actually contribute to a worsening of symptoms. Click here to read more.

Do you have a topic or blog of interest that you think is worth sharing? Let me know!

Fall Is Upon Us

The heat of the summer is over and fall is upon us. I, for one, am thrilled. Maybe a little cooler weather will take some of the heat out of those hot flashes!! Speaking of hot flashes...within the next two weeks, Lunar Radiance will be revealing new wicking sleepwear to fight those night sweats....always love that. In the meantime, it's time to turn to some fall festivities that are upon us and prepare!

Halloween is always a fun time to dress up, decorate and send entertaining greeting cards. Over at my Zazzle store, NightSweatsDiva, I have been busy creating many new greeting cards, Halloween postage stamps, trick or treat bags, tee shirts and so much more. Below are just a few samples, but there is so much that I can't fit everything here. The best part.....You Can Personalize almost everything and have you never have to leave your house!!

Teachers, baby boomer grandparents, moms and dads need to pay a visit, and check back often because new additions are being made every day.

Personalized Halloween Tote Bag by NightSweatsDiva

Halloween Novelty Mug by NightSweatsDiva

Halloween Postage Stamps by NightSweatsDiva

Halloween Stickers by NightSweatsDiva

Halloween Party Invitation by NightSweatsDiva

P.S......Have a bride to be in your family? Have her click here. She will love, love, love it!

Boomer Birthday Cards

Hello Fellow Boomers....
Just wanted to share some new and unique birthday cards for you to send to your fellow boomer friends who are celebrating the BIG 5-0 Enjoy!

Happy 50th Birthday Card by NightSweatsDiva

Happy 50th Birthday for a Baby Boomer Woman by NightSweatsDiva

Happy 50th Birthday for a Baby Boomer Woman by NightSweatsDiva

Would you like a customized card? Just send me an email to lunarradiance@aol.com

What Has Happened to My Decollete?

Maybe it's my turning 51, maybe it's my being perimenopausal, but all of a sudden I have become obsessed with the little lines and wrinkles on my face. You know...those little lines of character, that lovingly tell the story of our life experiences. OH PLEASE!!! They are wrinkles....aging skin creases that make me look old and I don't like them. And....how about that decollete!! All of a sudden I can't stop looking at it. It's not that it is wrinkly, it just looks, well, weathered. That would be the best way to describe it.

I have now joined the ranks of thousands of women who are looking for just the right combination of cleanser, moisturizer, serums etc. to help us battle father time. There are 11,000 baby boomers turning 50 every day and it is projected that there will be a $12 billion increase in money spent on anti-aging products and supplements in the next year and a half alone. Wow!! Those of us who either choose to refrain from costly cosmetic procedures or simply don't want to shell out the bucks for botox, are most certainly spending some serious cash on skincare.

Most recently, Monday to be exact, I started a new regime using a new product line called Striking. According to the literature, I should begin to see firmer skin, a reduction in the appearance of of fine lines and wrinkles, smoother skin, and an overall improvement in the appearance of my skin in as little as 14 days. I can also use it on my weathered decollete!! The system is a simple 4 step program consisting of a creamy cleanser, serum, eye cream and moisture cream.

What is their secret you may be asking....PEPTIDES.....patented "Smart Peptides" Now this is where it gets scientific, so I will let you see and listen for yourself at an short informational video on YouTube. Just click here for a little education on the product. I did because I wanted to know what made this different from other anti-aging products. Plus, when I'm going to lay down some cash I like to be educated.

It's too soon for results but I can tell you one thing I love about Striking already.....NO SCENT! None of the products smell. The cleanser is very creamy as is the eye cream and the moisturizer. I'm not usually a creamy cleanser kind of girl, but this is ok. It feels good. Since my skin tends to be oily, I do not need to slather on the creams, so a little goes a long way. I would guess that even dry skin would not need too much. No break outs, no irritations, so far I am good to go. AND....if this gets the decollete in shape, I will be a lifetime lover!

Sorry....I'm too vein to post a stripped down before version of my face, but I will keep you posted on my findings!